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But on 1 Aprilwhen I was nearly 40 years old, a customer threw me out of his car. My dress got caught in the door and he dragged me six blocks along the ground, tearing all the skin off my face and the side of my body. I went to the County Hospital in Chicago and they immediately took me to the emergency room. Because of the condition I was in, they called in a police officer, who looked me over and said: "Oh I know her. She's just a hooker. She probably beat some guy and took his money and got what she deserved.
They pushed me out into the waiting room as if I wasn't worth anything, as if I didn't deserve the services of the emergency room after all. And it was at that moment, while I was waiting for the next shift to start and for someone to attend to my injuries, that I began to think about everything that had happened in my life. Up until that point I had always had some idea of what to do, where to go, how to pick myself up again. Suddenly it was like I had run out of bright ideas.
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I remember looking up and saying to God, "These people don't care about me. Could you please help me? God worked real fast. A doctor came and chiccago care of me and she asked me to go and see social services in the hospital. What I knew about social services was they were anything but social.
But they gave me a bus pass to go to a place called Genesis House, which mkch run by an awesome Englishwoman named Edwina Gateley, who became a great hero and mentor for me. She helped me turn my life around. It was a safe house, and I had everything that I needed there.
I didn't have to worry about paying for clothes, food, getting a job. They told me to take my time and stay as long as I needed - and I stayed almost two years. My face healed, my soul healed. I got Brenda back. Through Edwina Gateley, I learned the value of that deep connection chicavo can occur between women, the circle of trust and love and support that a group of women can give one another.
Usually, when a woman gets out of prostitution, she doesn't want to talk about it.
What man will accept her as a wife? What person will hire her in their employment? And to begin with, after I left Genesis House, that was me too. I just wanted to get a job, pay my taxes and be like everybody else. But I started to do some volunteering with sex workers and to help a university researcher with her fieldwork.
After a while I realised that nobody was helping these young ladies. Nobody was going back and saying, "That's who I was, that's where I was. This is who I am now. You can change too, you can heal too. A dreamcatcher is a Native American object that you hang near 's cot. It is supposed to chase away children's nightmares.
That's what we want to do - we want to chase away those bad dreams, those bad things that happen to young girls and women. The recent documentary film Dreamcatcher, directed by Kim Longinotto, showed the work that we do. We meet up with women who are still working on the street and we tell them, "There is a way out, we're ready to help you when you're ready to be helped. I also run after-school clubs with young girls who are exactly like I was in the s. I can tell as soon as I meet a girl if she is in danger, but there is no fixed pattern.
You might have one girl who's quiet and introverted and doesn't make eye contact. Then there might be another who's loud and obnoxious and always getting in trouble. They're both suffering abuse at home but they're dealing with it in different ways - the only thing they have in common is that they are not going to talk about it. But in time they understand that I have been through what they're going through, and then they talk to me about it.
So far, we have 13 girls who have graduated from high school and are now in city colleges or have gotten full scholarships to go to other colleges. They came to us 11, 12, 13 years old, totally damaged. And now they're reaching for the stars. Besides my outreach work, I attend conferences and contribute to academic work on prostitution. I've had people say to me, "Brenda, come and meet Professor so-and-so from such-and-such university. He's an expert on prostitution. Where did you get your credentials?
What do you really know about prostitution?
The expert is standing in front of you. I know I belong in that room but sometimes I have to let them know I belong there. And I think it's ridiculous that there are organisations that campaign against human trafficking, that do not employ a single person who has been trafficked. People say different things about prostitution. Some people think that it would actually help sex hkw more if it were decriminalised. I think it's true to say that every escorys has her own story.
It may be OK for this girl, who is paying her way through law school, but not for this girl, who was molested aswho never knew she had another choice, who was just trying to get money to eat. But let me ask you a question. How many people would you encourage to quit their jobs to become prostitutes? Would you say to any of your close friends or female relatives, "Hey, have you thought of this? I think this would be a really great move for you!
And let me say this too.
However the situation starts off for a girl, that's not how the situation ro end up. It might look OK now, the girl in law school might say she only has high-end clients that come to her through an agency, that she doesn't work on the streets but arranges to meet people in hotel rooms, but the first time that someone hurts her, that's when she really sees her situation for what it is. You always get that crazy guy slipping through and he has three or four guys behind him, and dp force their way into your room and gang rape you, and take your phone and all your money.
Escogts suddenly you have no means to make a living and you're beaten up too. That is the reality of prostitution.
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Three years ago, I became the first woman in the state of Illinois to have her convictions for prostitution wiped from her record. It was after a new law was brought in, following lobbying from the Chicago Alliance Against Sexual Exploitation, a group that seeks to shift the criminal burden away from the victims of sexual trafficking. Women who have been tortured, manipulated and brainwashed should be edcorts as survivors, not criminals.
Following my time as a prostitute, I simply wasn't ready for another relationship. But after three years of healing and abstinence, I met an extraordinary man.
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I was very picky - he likes to joke that I asked him more questions than the parole board. He didn't judge me for any of the things that had happened before we met. When he looked at me he didn't even see those things - he says all he saw was a girl with a pretty smile that he wanted to be a part of his life. I sure wanted to be a part of his too.
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He supports me in everything I do, and we celebrated 10 years of marriage last year. My daughters, who were raised by my aunt in the suburbs, grew up to be awesome young ladies. One is a doctor and one works in criminal justice. Now my husband and I have adopted my little nephew - and here I am, 58 years old, a football mum.
So I am here to tell you - there is life after so much damage, there is life after so much trauma. There is life after people have told you that you are nothing, that you are worthless and that you will never amount to anything. But there were definitely boundaries. Q: What would readers be surprised to learn about the business? A: The average client that I met in New York City waswell-dressed, well-groomed, very well-mannered, well-educated — a lot of times from New York; mostly Wall Street, lawyers, CEOs, businessmen, hedge fund managers.
About half of them were single, about half of them were married. A lot of the married guys, one of the things I used to believe at the time was that I was actually doing a service for these guys, because rather than having an affair with their secretary and potentially ruining their lives, they would come see me, satisfy their needs physically and some of the companionship they wanted — going on a date, having fun, relaxing — and being able to sustain their marriage.
But you have to look at what are laws for? Should laws be the moral compass for society? A: My mother loves me. She was there for me when nobody else was.
She was there for me when I went to jail, and she was there for me after I got out of jail and helped me through a lot. A: I always had chkcago circle of friends, and they pretty much stayed constant throughout. There were some of them with whom I could share the details of my life. A: Yeah, and it definitely went both ways. There was a uow element to my experience in the industry, where for some reason I chose not to separate myself emotionally or put up walls between myself and my experiences with my clients.
I fall in love every day. Yeah, I definitely fell in love. As a result, I definitely developed feelings for them. But at the same time, you get over mucg, I guess. A: I love that movie! Everybody wants to be swept off their feet by Richard Gere or someone like him and rescued from Wilshire Boulevard or wherever she was.
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A: It actually happens. There was a girl I knew who worked for the agency, who had a booking with a client, went on a date. They fell in love, and he whisked her off to London. Q: Are people judgmental about what you did for a living? It lasted for one year of my life, although it had more long-lasting repercussions.
It is a challenge hwo find the people chhicago me who are willing to know me and love me for who I am and not adhere to what society says is right and wrong. It does let you know the people who are really true people. It really is beautiful. Some people go through their lives and never know who loves me for what I escortx. I know right away. A: I never, ever demanded tips.